No Boundaries? People-Pleasing?
What if I told you that these are not your real problem?
Let me paint a picture of what your daily life probably looks like...
You can't set boundaries - and when you finally muster the courage to say "no" to something, the guilt is overwhelming. You feel like you're being mean, selfish, or letting people down.
You backtrack constantly - The discomfort of potentially disappointing someone becomes too unbearable, so you end up saying "yes" anyway, even when you desperately wanted to say "no."
You're longing for recognition - You keep giving and helping, hoping someone will finally see you, appreciate you, acknowledge how much you do for everyone else.
You feel resentful but also honoured - There's this confusing mix of feelings. You're exhausted from always being the one people turn to, but you're also secretly proud that you're seen as helpful, reliable, the "good person."
You're caught in this painful cycle:
You say yes when you want to say no
You feel guilty when you finally try to set a boundary
You backtrack because the discomfort is too much
You feel resentful but also needed
You long for someone to notice and appreciate you
You feel embarrassed for even wanting recognition
You're terrified of saying the wrong thing - After all, nice people don't say unkind things, right? You rehearse conversations in your head, overthinking every word because you're so afraid of coming across as mean or harsh.
You don't want to make anyone feel bad - The thought of someone feeling rejected, hurt, or bad about themselves because of something you said is unbearable. You know exactly how painful that feels from your own experience, and you would never want to inflict that on someone else.
So you stay silent - You swallow your words, your needs, your truth, because protecting others' feelings seems more important than honouring your own.
You didn't go for that higher-paid position because you convinced yourself you weren't "qualified enough" (even though you absolutely were).
You stopped dreaming years ago about that hobby, that trip, that creative project - because somewhere along the way, you decided other people's needs were more important than your own desires.
You feel like if everyone around you is fine, then you'll be fine too. But deep down? You're not fine. And you feel guilty about this feeling because you think you should be grateful for what you have.
Here's what I know about you: You're not broken. You're not weak. You're not "too sensitive."
You're someone who learnt early that your worth depended on how much you could give, how much you could endure, how small you could make yourself to fit into others' expectations.
But here's the truth they never told you: This isn't love. This is survival.
The Real Problem Goes Much Deeper
Not being able to set boundaries and people-pleasing?
These are just the surface symptoms of something much, much deeper.
You see, there are many wonderful programmes out there - weekend workshops, 2-hour sessions, intensive retreats.
I've experienced many of them myself, and they can be incredibly valuable and insightful. They absolutely have their place in our growth journey.
But here's what I've learnt: Even the most powerful breakthrough can fade when you return to your everyday life without ongoing support. It's easy to slip back into old patterns when you're surrounded by people who aren't on a similar journey of growth.
What I'm offering you is different. We're changing the root.
Because here's what I've discovered from my own 2-year mindfulness meditation teacher training and year-long business programmes: Real transformation doesn't happen in a weekend (although it could happen â this is something I don't know.. but for most it's a lifelong processâŠ).
It happens in the daily choice to keep showing up for yourself, supported by people who see your worth when you can't see it yourself.
Introducing The Choose You Collective
A year-long support programme in an amazing community where you will:
Become your own best friend (not your harshest critic)
Be encouraged to be yourself (without apology or explanation)
Be respected for who you are, not who you think you should be
This isn't just another self-help programme.
This is a movement. A community. A place where you finally learn that choosing yourself isn't selfish - it's necessary.
And here's the beautiful paradox: You learn to choose you, but in a supported environment. So whilst you learn to choose yourself, you're helping others choose themselves too.
Still with me? Good! Because this is where it gets really exciting...
Imagine a Year From Now...
Picture this: You wake up in the morning and your first thought isn't "What do I need to do for everyone else today?" Instead, you actually check in with yourself. You ask: "How am I feeling? What do I need today?"
In meetings, you speak up confidently when you have an idea. You don't wait for the "perfect" moment or rehearse your words a hundred times. You just... speak. And people listen.
When someone asks for a favour that doesn't feel right, you say "I can't do that" without giving into the crushing guilt, if arises.
You don't over-explain or make excuses.
And the world doesn't end.
You start that creative project you've been putting off for years. You book that trip. You apply for that role. Not because you're suddenly fearless, but because you finally believe you deserve good things.
Your relationships transform. Instead of trying to be what you think others want, you show up as yourself - and discover that the people worth keeping around actually prefer the real you.
You stop apologising for taking up space, for having opinions, for existing.
You realise that you matter just as much as everyone else.
The most beautiful part? This change doesn't just affect you.
When you give yourself permission to be authentic, you give others permission too.
When you show yourself compassion, you naturally extend that same kindness to others.
When you finally give yourself permission to exist without shrinking, something beautiful happens:
You stop needing others to validate your worth, which means you can finally connect with them authentically - not from need, but from wholeness.
This is my vision and dream: That we can live in more harmony, with more kindness towards ourselves and each other.
I believe this path can lead us to a more harmonious world because it has a ripple effect.
(This isn't the only way, though)
My Story: From Olympic-Level People-Pleaser to Self-Love Teacher
Even though I now guide others to feel worthy, know that they matter and also to set healthy boundaries... I used to be an Olympic-level people-pleaser.
I could read a room in 0.3 seconds and agreed with people just to keep the peace, said yes or maybe most of the times... I believed putting others first made me a good person â even took pride in it.
As a carer for 8 years, when I saw job ads that said, "You must be able to put others first," I thought, "That's what I do best."
But that mindset and behaviour made me feel disconnected from myself.
Since I was a little girl, I'd repeated the same phrase: "Nobody loves me."
I humiliated myself again and again, just to feel some affection. I didn't have many boundaries.
I kind of didn't even know what they were.
I carried everyone's emotional baggage while ignoring my own â and that felt heavy.
And I used to often feel that it would be better if I wasn't around at all (from an early age).
I was torn between two selves: one part of me rebelled, while the other wore a thousand masks trying to be whoever I thought people wanted me to be.
One night, standing at my bedroom window, I asked the Universe to send me help.
I didn't know what I was looking for, but I found a local workshop. And something shifted and after I made a promise to myself: I will never abandon myself again.
After that I found an event, and from there, met an energy healer.
During our first session, she asked, "What do you need right now?" I said, "Self-love." And this is where my self-love journey began!
At the next healing session, I said: "Self-acceptance."
I began exploring Louise Hay's teachings and discovered I wasn't a victim of my past â I had the power to change.
I learnt that it's my job to take care of my needs, to express them clearly, and not expect others to read my mind.
Not being able to set boundaries and people-pleasing came from the belief that I don't really matter and that something deep within is wrong with me.
I learnt that quite the opposite is true... that I matter just like everyone else.
And I am pretty cool as well :)
And from that place of self-love and self-acceptance my yeses are not coming from fear, but from alignment (most of the times... I still don't always get it right, so to speak).
And I want to share this, so you know that this is a process.
And even though I used to wear masks... at the same time I was longing for freedom.
I thought freedom came from the outside.
I blamed the system... Through my own journey, I discovered that freedom comes from within. And if we love and accept who we are and bring everything back to ourselves, we can feel free.
And I also had another insight one day and with that came a vision... That through self-love we can bring harmony and unity.
And so the smaller picture is that I'd love for everybody to find that freedom to be themselves, and the bigger picture to bring more acceptance to the whole through self-love.
And from my personal reason: I just love doing this!
Still reading? Wonderful! That tells me this is already resonating with you...
What We'll Cover Together
This year-long programme addresses many areas of your life because everything is connected:
â Boundaries (of course)- The natural result of knowing your worth
â Relationships - Connecting authentically without losing yourself
â Self-Expression - Rediscovering who you are beneath all the "shoulds"
â Inner Child Work - Healing the wounds that created these patterns
â Manifestation - Creating from wholeness, not lack
â Career & Money - Finally asking for what you're worth and going for opportunities that excite you
â And so much more...
What You Get
Weekly Group Coaching Sessions - Address what's coming up for you in real-time
Weekly Mindfulness Meditation Sessions - Reconnect with yourself, slow down, pause, and check in with your inner wisdom - and apply all this in your daily life
Monthly Live Workshops - Deep dives into specific areas of transformation
Incredible Bonuses (details below based on your investment level)
A Like-Minded Community - Where you won't be looked at like an alien for your growth journey, but celebrated for your courage
12 Months of Consistent Support - Because real change happens when you have people who keep you on track and see possibilities for you that others in your "normal" life might not
Why a Full Year?
Because even though a weekend workshop can have a huge impact, we tend to go back to our old patterns very quickly without ongoing support.
My experience in long-term programmes showed me that transformation happens when you have:
Consistent accountability that keeps you on track
People who see your potential when you can't see it yourself
A safe space to share your struggles without judgement
Regular check-ins to celebrate progress and course-correct
I know how uncomfortable and scary it can be to share with others, but honestly... sharing connects us.
When we talk about our challenges with awareness (feeling sorry for ourselves with awareness and kindness), we create space for real change.
This Is Your Invitation
I am extremely lit up about this programme that I've been planning for so long, and it's finally here...
This is a hybrid programme - meaning people can join throughout the year as we grow our community together.
But here's the thing: Right now, I'm only opening 15 spots at this founding price. Once those 15 spots are filled, I'll close the doors for a couple of months. When I reopen, it will be at a much higher investment level (minimum ÂŁ6,000).
Why only 15 people first? Because I want to create something truly special. I want to give each person the attention and support they deserve whilst building a strong foundation for this community.
Investment & Bonuses
Let's talk about value first...
If you were to get these individually:
The Choose You Process = ÂŁ1,200
7 Step Process To Set Boundaries
1. Develop Self-Worth
2. Move Beyond Guilt and Shame
3. Accept What Was, Choose Whatâs Next
4. Set Boundaries With Confidence
5. Put Yourself First
6. Create Authentic Relationships
7. Choose Happiness!
52 weekly group coaching sessions = ÂŁ3,500
52 weekly mindfulness meditation sessions = ÂŁ1,700
12 monthly live workshops = ÂŁ2,200
Community - Priceless
Total individual value: ÂŁ9,600
But you're not paying anywhere near that...
Pay in Full: ÂŁ3,000
Bonus
3 months of 1-to-1 coaching (12 sessions) (worth ÂŁ2,400)
Money Loves Me Book by Farah Ohrts
Louise Hay's Heal Your Life book and workbook
Payment Plan: ÂŁ300/month for 12 months (ÂŁ3,600 total)
Bonus
1 month of 1-to-1 coaching (4 sessions) (worth ÂŁ800)
Money Loves Me Book by Farah Ohrts
Louise Hay's Heal Your Life book and workbook
All programme materials and community access
When doors reopen, the investment will be minimum ÂŁ6,000
Want to make sure we're a good match first?
I'd love to have a no-pressure chat with you to see if this feels right for both of us.
After all, we'll be spending a year together!
The Choice Is Yours
You can keep treating the symptoms - trying to force yourself to set boundaries without addressing why you struggle to value yourself in the first place.
Or you can choose to dig deeper. To heal the root. To finally become the person you were always meant to be.
This programme isn't about fixing you.
This is about accepting who you are - including all the so-called negatives - and creating something new from that place of wholeness.
Because here's what I believe: You don't need to shrink to fit in.
You need to expand to stand out. Everybody is unique, and therefore nobody is unique at the same time đ
And you were never meant to do this alone.
Nearly there now... and if you've read this far, you already know this is calling to you...
Ready to Choose You (And Create a Ripple Effect)?
Only 15 spots available at this founding price
Investment:
ÂŁ3,000 full pay
or
ÂŁ300/month for 12 months
Doors close when these 15 spots are filled
When we reopen, investment will be minimum ÂŁ6,000
[BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL AT THE BOTTOM - LET'S SEE IF WE'RE A GOOD MATCH]
P.S. - If you're still reading this, you already know this is for you. The only question is: Are you ready to stop surviving and start living? Are you ready to be part of creating a more harmonious, kinder world?
P.P.S. - Remember, there are only 15 spots at this price.
Not to be pushy, but I'd hate for you to miss out on something that could change everything because you waited too long.
Your future self will thank you for taking this step.
đ° âI donât have the moneyâŠâ
Ohhh, I get it. I really do. Itâs a big decision. It feels like a big investment. I remember so clearly being the girl who thought, âWhy are people charging for their gifts? Shouldnât they just be helping others from the goodness of their hearts?â That was the story I had picked up somewhere along the way. And I believed it for a long timeâuntil I started walking the path myself.
When I began learning about healing, when I started diving deeper into this work, I realised how much love, energy, time, and yesâmoneyâgoes into becoming someone who can truly guide others. The workshops, the trainings, the certifications⊠They werenât free. And they werenât always easy to pay for. But they were so worth it.
There came a moment where I had to decideâwithout having all the answers lined up. I had to say to myself, âIâm going to be there. Iâm doing this.â And do you know what? The money came. Bit by bit, in surprising ways sometimes. And I found a way. Since then, Iâve paid thousandsâmany, many times. And I would do it all again in a heartbeat.(In fact I am still educating myself)
NowâI want to say this clearlyâI would never tell you to go into debt. I know how heavy that can feel. Iâve been there too, with the pressure of repayments and that anxious feeling in your chest.
But if money is the only thing standing in your way, then maybe, just maybe, this is your moment to be brave.
To get resourceful. To stretchânot forceâbut gently stretch.
To tell yourself, âIâm going to make this work because this matters to me.â
And if it still doesnât come together this time, thatâs okay too. You tried. You opened yourself to the possibility. And that alone is powerful. Because one dayâjust like it did for meâsomething will click. And it will happen.
I donât have the time
Oof, I hear you. Life is a lot. But let me say this gently and with love⊠if we always wait for life to calm down, weâll be waiting forever.
This isnât about adding more to your plate. Itâs about clearing the noise and tending to you. You donât need hours every day. What you do need is to decide you matter, to decide that you'll show up for yourself, as much as you can! And this isn't another addition to your to-do-list that if you don't do it right, you can have a go at yourself! You'll hear me say loads... just be kind to yourself :)
Even if you show up messy, half-dressed, with your hair in a bun and a toddler on your lapâyou're welcome here.
I always put others first â this feels selfish
Ohh, I hear this one so often. And I used to feel it too. When you're used to making sure everyone else is okay â your partner, your kids, your friends, even people you barely know â it can feel wrong to suddenly say "But what about me?"
It might feel selfish. But hereâs the truth: itâs not. Itâs necessary. We can't keep pouring from an empty cup. And more importantly â you're a person too. You matter, not because of what you do for others, but simply because you exist. Choosing yourself isn't selfish â itâs sacred.
Iâm not sure itâll work for me
Yep, I get that. Maybe youâve tried things before and youâre scared to hope again. Or maybe your inner voice says, "What if Iâm just too stuck?"
But let me gently say this: if something inside you is drawn here, even just a tiny bit... thatâs not by accident.
This process isnât about forcing change. Itâs about returning to who you already are â under all the layers of people-pleasing, self-doubt, and fear. And weâll go step by step. Not alone. Not rushed. Just together.
Iâm scared to look at the deeper stuff
Yes. Thatâs real. And brave to admit.
Looking within can be scary â because there might be grief, anger, shame... or things we were told not to feel.
But you wonât be doing it alone. And the beauty is â when we do look, gently, safely, and with love â we donât break. We heal. The fear softens. The weight lightens.
You get to choose your pace. You get to pause when you need. And sometimes, just being seen and met in your truth is the beginning of the shift.
I donât want to join a group â Iâm shy or introverted
This oneâs close to my heart. Not everyone loves groups. Some of us are quieter. We need time to warm up.
And thatâs okay. Thereâs no pressure here to be loud, to share everything, or to perform.
You can show up however you are.
And what Iâve seen time and time again is that these groups â when held with care â become the safest, softest spaces. Where youâre reminded youâre not alone. And where your quietness is respected, not overlooked.
Iâve tried things like this before and didnât get results
Yes. I hear the frustration in that. You gave your time, your trust, maybe your money⊠and still ended up feeling stuck.
This isnât a magic fix. I wonât pretend it is.
But what I can promise is: we go deep here. We donât just talk about boundaries â we untangle whatâs underneath. The guilt. The fear.
And we do it with gentleness and humour and realness.
Sometimes whatâs missing is not your effort â but the right space. A space that truly sees you and holds you.
What if I canât make the live sessions?
Totally understandable. Lifeâs full. Some of us are parents, carers, full-time workers, or just plain tired.
The live sessions are recorded â so you can watch them anytime. And even if you miss a few, youâll still have the tools, the practices, and the group energy to keep you connected.
Plus, you can always bring questions to the next session, or share in the group space.
You donât have to be at everything to benefit. Just show up as much as you can.
I feel guilty spending money or time on myself
Ohhh this one. Big one. The guilt.
Like⊠"Who am I to spend this much?" or "What will people think?" or "Maybe I should be using this for the kids or the house..."
I felt this so deeply once. Until I realised â when I invest in myself, everyone benefits.
My relationships get better. My energy shifts. I show up more fully.
You are allowed to choose yourself. Not just once, but again and again. Even if guilt comes up â that doesnât mean youâre doing the wrong thing. It just means youâre stretching into something new.
Is there anything I haven't covered?
Please book a call (using the calendar above) or send me an email... (call is easier, we can have a conversation)!
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